I'm going to spare everyone all the gory details at this time, but I guess it's time to acknowledge the facts. Sarah has left me.
This has all come to a head extremely quickly (for me), but Sarah has been sitting on a horrible pile of emotions for months, so it's probably been an eternity for her.
I still love Sarah and I'm desperately trying to reconcile, but Sarah just wants to move on. Throw a child in the mix and the fact that we're married in Australia but most of our on-paper shared property is in California, and I just don't want to think about it.
I ask that our mutual friends not take sides (which I realise is difficult) and to please give Sarah all the support you can. This can't have been an easy decision for her. Of course, I'll also take any support you want to send my way.
I start my sabbatical from work on Thursday (I don't return to work until January), and my parents have a prearranged visit for pretty much all of December. I had all this planned before this came out of left field. I'd debated telling my parents not to come, so I could use the time off work to try and repair things, but Zoe needs time with her grandparents, and I can probably do with having them around.